We all carry emotional baggage. It has many faces. We carry it around with us, we store it in the remotest part of our brain, in the deepest chambers of our hearts. We have all those pieces of emotional luggage in our extensive database of memories. Some are so close to the heart, they brings out tears at the slightest provocation. They can cause us to feel anger, very deep resentments, and we may exhibit anti-social or antagonistic behaviours.
Shadows follow and haunt many… in our dreams or waking hours, in unlikely places… unexpected and intimidating. Uncontrollable anger that can lead to violence can explode without warning.
Some will live in denial and spend their lives disconnected with the real world. Others will find blame in everyone except themselves; its always the other person’s fault. What about victims and the victimizers?
Many are lost… searching for something they cannot identify. Something is missing. A mass of lonely faces line the crowded streets, sit in public places, in schools, agonize through the day in the workplace, gather at churches, perhaps, to seek solace. Every day we see a vast sea of sad, depressed and unfriendly faces. Our roads are open avenues for some… to lash out, venting their frustrations… thus uncontrollable road rage. It’s Scary.
Emotional excess baggage demands a high price at times. There are those who succumb to the weight of this burden… it gets too much to bear. They find no further reason to keep up the fight. Life loses its lustre, and they find the world cruel… their existence meaningless. To them, the fight is over… if there ever was one.
There are many who go through life like driftwood: let the current take them wherever it pleases, because it does not matter anymore. Is our world really this cruel?
What causes this emotional suffering?
Broken dreams, broken relationships, failed careers, lost hopes, betrayals, violations, childhood trauma, or other forms of trauma. Add to these health issues, social disgrace, financial disasters, poverty and addictions… all can cast deep emotional scars to the most vulnerable members of the family and society.
Is our fast-paced society to blame? Throw into the mix the pursuit of material success, endless toys, gadgets and exponential advances in technology, fragile relationships, weakening family ties, unreasonable expectations of self and of others, all can add to the already overstuffed emotional baggage we carry. Some carry this excess baggage for a long, long time.
All is not lost, if we take a moment to listen to our deeper needs, beyond the physical. There is a flood of information, organizations, professionals and other resources most communities offer for those who seek help. Deep emotional suffering is a critical issue that can no longer be ignored by society or by those who suffer. There is more to life.
Wisdom of the ages from different cultures and beliefs is revived or revised to suit the present psyche of society. It can offer a holistic approach, involving the whole person mind, body and spirit.
The wonders of medical and scientific research are vast, although pill-popping is not always the best answer.
Take stock of the weight of your emotional baggage. Be honest about it. If you need help… get it. There is an insanely beautiful world out there, and our time here is too short to waste it mired down in useless battles with old emotional ghosts.
Lay your burden down.